Do you believe that you are in an abusive relationship or are you perhaps aware, but just need a little bit of clarity? Never let yourself to be in an abusive relationship, your partner might be taking advantage of you because you’re too soft. You might feel that everything is your fault and you deserve it, but most commonly nobody deserves to be abused. According to statistics women and children are always the victims of domestic violence. Here are a few things to look out for.
Recognize you been abused.
Recognize that your partner is abusive and never believe when they say they did it because they love you or they want to protect you. Keep in mind that a person who can hurt you intentionally and claims they did it out of love is unpredictable how far they can go, and what next they can do. A person who loves you wouldn’t hurt you.
They control you.
They check who you see, what you’re doing and where you’re going. They want to control who you should see, where and when. They might even want to choose friends for you.
If they are controlling you financially, emotionally and mentally, you might be in an abusive relationship. Financially it may look like they want to know how much you have spent and how did you spend it. Emotionally can be like they keep on using strong language and that could break you mentally.
They accuse you of cheating, flirting and not being honest with them. They want you to choose them over your family. They choose your outfit when you go out without them.
They threaten you.
They threaten to harm you whenever arguing about something. They give you a terrible look when you do wrong in public.
Physical and sexual violence.
They slap you when you become over defensive. They force you to do things you don’t want to do. They overpower whenever your playing pillow fight, to show you how strong they can be.
Ignoring you in time of need.
Whenever you need them they not even there for you. They will rather ignore your feelings just to make you feel better. If you recognize this, that person doesn’t care about how you feel.
Everything may be your fault.
They start to blame you for pushing their anger to another level. An abuser will always abuse you. They may say something like “this wouldn’t have happened if it wasn’t for you “. Truth is no matter what you do, you will always be the one to blame.
What to do when you’re in an abusive relationship:
- End the relationship as soon as you can
- Report them to your nearest police station if there are physical injuries
- Let them know how your relationship is not taking you anywhere but to an early grave
There is no need to keep on holding and hoping for the better when you see your life might be in danger. Take a step and be in control of your own life. You don’t deserve to be ruled by a person that you didn’t even know they exist before they met you. If you’re in an abusive relationship take action before its too late.